“What should we get the boy for Christmas?” Another year, same phone call. It’s not an unusual question to get from grandparents, whether your kid is autistic or not. Of course with my neurotypical boy, the answer’s easy: anything Power Rangers, Lego, Spider-Man, Harry Potter, or Black Panther-related is going to be a hit. With my autistic boy, though? That one’s a little tougher. Part … Continue reading Having Himself a Merry Little Autistic Christmas
I’m a firm believer that you can’t advocate for a group without letting the very people you’re trying to support lead the way. My son is the autistic one. He calls the shots (in his own way). I’m just the support team. I’m well aware that there are things he goes through that I’m most likely never going to be able to identify with, even … Continue reading I’m A NT Parent, Not An Enemy To The Autistic Community
I’ve been struggling with this one lately, boys. See, I know I’m responsible for teaching you what it means to be men. Problem is that I’ve been on this spinning blue ball for over 40 years now, and I don’t know that I’ve got it completely figured out myself. Based on what I see around me lately, I’m not sure anyone else does, either. What … Continue reading What Defines A Man?
The children have started to show their asses. During those first few years, a lot of the disciplinary issues we ran into were due more to a lack of understanding on our little angels’ parts than anything else. The children didn’t understand that the walls of our home weren’t blank canvases to create upon with their un-washable markers. They didn’t understand that grabbing something right out of someone’s … Continue reading I Am The Law?
Partly because of my job, and partly because of all the “millennial” frustration I see on-line everyday, I’ve come to a conclusion regarding my own kids: I have to love them enough to let them fail. Let me clarify. We all want the best for our kids. We want them to grow up happy, healthy, and most of all successful. We put a lot of … Continue reading Let Them Lose
What’s the difference between parenting a child with special needs vs. one without? I struggled with that question when my boy was first diagnosed autistic. Him being our first born, I was still just trying to figure out parenting period. What do you do when your child has a condition you can hardly understand or identify with? It took me a long time, too damn … Continue reading The Only Difference
Let’s get real for a moment. What would you do if someone did this to you? What about this? This? HOW ABOUT THIS?? I’ll tell you what you’d do – you’d call the cops, call an exorcist, or mete out violent retribution with your own two thirsty-for-blood fists. Unless, of course, those responsible happened to look like this: I have suffered each of these … Continue reading Why God Made the Children Cute
No, not that one. The other one. The one that had me praying for death just as a new year was dawning. The flu. Common wisdom holds that any man stricken with such a disease will immediately revert to a state that’s somewhere between infant and corpse. That’s certainly what I WANTED to do. There was just one small problem: I wasn’t the only victim. … Continue reading The F-Bomb
Struggle is not weakness. When you become a parent, you take on the hardest and most important job in the world – the raising and nurturing of a new person. Your life becomes consumed with doing everything you can to make sure that little person has everything they need, and quite a bit of what they want. Mostly you just try to do your … Continue reading Struggle is Not Weakness