Maybe you saw it coming. Maybe the idea never even crossed your mind. Either way, your child has just been diagnosed. So where do you start? By taking a deep breath, and not doing anything. Don’t start reading pamphlets. Don’t start calling therapists. For the love of God, DON’T JUMP ON-LINE. Go home and take a moment to remember everything you knew about your baby the day … Continue reading When Your Child Is Diagnosed Autistic – First Step
It’s not unusual to question if you’re doing enough when you’re raising an autistic child. Part of that is just general anxiety. The other is worrying over whether or not the reason he or she isn’t making the progress you’re hoping for because you’re not giving them enough time, therapy, guidance, etc. It’s hard to benchmark as well, because every autistic child is unique. … Continue reading Too Little Or Too Much?
There are things that give me more anxiety than the start of a new school year. Acid rain. Nuclear winter. The off-chance one of the boys will discover “Caillou” on one of our streaming services. Yes, there are things that I agonize over more that the start of school. Not many, though. When you have small kids, it’s only natural to be a little nervous … Continue reading School Daze
Sometimes it feels like we’re raising our boy under a ticking clock. To some degree, every parent feels that way. We tend to judge ourselves by how quickly our kids reach certain milestones. The points at which our children start to walk, talk, read, etc. tend to set the standard by which we judge their progress, along with our own. It’s no different when you’re parenting a child … Continue reading The Ticking Clock
My boy had a rough time this morning. Allergy season always takes a heavy toll on him, but we’re usually able to get him back on his feet through judicious application of Zyrtec and Benadryl. That apparently isn’t going to be enough this year, with the pollen counts reaching in the quadrillions. This meant a trip to the pediatrician and a request for the only … Continue reading To Those Who Are Kind
What’s the difference between parenting a child with special needs vs. one without? I struggled with that question when my boy was first diagnosed autistic. Him being our first born, I was still just trying to figure out parenting period. What do you do when your child has a condition you can hardly understand or identify with? It took me a long time, too damn … Continue reading The Only Difference
“Do I hate autism?” I found myself awake one night wrestling with that question. It had been a harder evening than most, one wherein my son had dealt with way too much sensory overload during a trip to the mall. This resulted in a meltdown that was far more explosive than what his mother and I were used to. All in full view of an alternatively pitying … Continue reading Autism Isn’t the Enemy